Hello dear ones,
“Its all about the giving”.
Quite a statement one would say….but… it actually really is; all about the giving!
Some of us may confuse depression with a simple need to connect with others, to connect from the heart.
Modern times are designed to single us out from a true form of connecting. We spend most of our days, building our identity, chasing unattainable dreams, fighting for our little spec in this world yet do we even need the fences? the labels? the space?
I wont go overboard here with philosophical quotations, ill get straight to the heart of what has been on my mind.
You see, that little act of giving, giving to those who truly need it, it’s such a pure form of connecting, connecting from the heart. This has nothing to do with charities or lump sum donations to who knows what, I’m talking about, you, wherever you are, physically witnessing yourself connecting with another through any act of giving. The act will take you away from yourself, from the bubble your in. It will connect you to another bubble, and there, whilst connecting, your numbness or heaviness will lighten. You will start to notice how whatever your absorbed in may not be such a big deal after all.
For example, you may be the one who needs the 2 hour full body massage but how about reversing that thought and giving a tender massage to a loved one, seeing if the gesture in itself fills the void of you ever needing that massage to begin with?!
Or, you eat a meal, a good meal at a good restaurant though cant seem to finish it. Why not take the remains away (despite the embarrassment), give them to a homeless person near by and see their expression. Witness that, the sweet nothing a small gesture can do. Feel it’s grandness, the grandness that comes from a minute little gesture.
Consider calculating how much time do you spend per day, per month, per year, building your own mega land of mega-ness that revolves around you and all that is yours?
I too thought about this today, I did my calculations and I think, I could do so much more “giving” if I just remembered to. If I just set aside a monthly ritual to go and witness myself connecting through giving.
“An act of giving can be as simple as”:
- Smiling
- Hanging up the phone gently
- Disposing of some of the rubbish laying around at your local park
- Appreciating
- Giving away (to those in need) what you do not need
- Planting a seed
- Feeding a bird
- Resting
This so called “time” that we are all worried about tends to be what blocks us from even remembering to connect beyond the boundaries of our comforts. Just to be clear, giving money to charities, donating etc, there is nothing wrong with that but sometimes, in my opinion, it’s probably good to witness the act yourself. To get your hands a little dirty digging a hole in the earth and plating that tree!
Making the time to connect through giving is healing, it’s timeless, it will open you up, help you remember what your interlinked with and burst the big bubble “I” (at least for a short while).
Why all this expressing?
Well, I had ordered me a little more grub than required this evening and decided to pack it and take it home. Whilst heading to my little dungeon like of a room, I spotted this homeless man who was just sitting there, freezing and tired. I thought I should just give him my food. So I did. As he took it, he smiled and said “why not” with a peace sign. Something about that “why not” and milli second of an exchange answered my big day of question marks. The joy that came with that milli second of an exchange made me want to keep battling on, for all of us, not just for me, for this interconnected madness that will probably always remain a mystery, but who cares because… the “why not” and the homeless mans carefree smile confirmed how important it is to connect through giving.
So, this festive season, no matter how big or small, delve into any act of giving and connect from the heart.
Feel free to share your experiences here.
You’re loved!
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Love & light,
Tashi
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